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Q. Mate and I have been together four years. Work's been rough on him lately. This morning I started one of our little affection rituals, and I noticed him hesitate. Asked him about it. He hesitated MORE, and finally said it "half-annoyed" him. I said, well, wished I'd known that four YEARS ago. I didn't say it with anger, and I didn't say anything else, but I admit I cried in the shower VERY QUIETLY when I knew he'd gone to the other bathroom. When I came out he said he didn't want me to stop doing it, that he's just twitchy right now.
My thinking is "half-annoyed" after four years is going to be REALLY annoyed in five, so I should stop. But then he said not to stop doing it. So I'm confused AND feeling like this person I thought could tell me anything is holding something back - like, what other rituals of ours does he secretly dislike? Help? ("It" is not anything gross, just an exchange of silly nicknames.)See the full content of this document
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Fully Confused by His Half-Annoyance
- Virginia
You know how, when a beloved partner dies, the grieving survivor suddenly misses all those quirks once dismissed as obnoxious?You just figured out why. Your mate could easily find your nickname for him annoying ...See the full content of this document
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